Christian Marriage 101.
A Christian Marriage is between a man and a woman. Christians are not Clones. Christians are individuals with their own unique Personalities, beyond their Christian Faith. Like in all Marriages Christian Marriages need two people who have the same likes and dislikes.
There are Christian Marriages where the man is always out camping, in the outdoors on the weekends. While his wife stays home because she hates being in the woods. Having the same interests is essential in all Marriages. Without sharing the same interests even Christian Marriages will end in Divorce.
Genesis 2:24 “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
It is wrong to suggest that any two Christian Men and Women could just marry each other. And that marriage would work. It would be blessed by God. This is ignorant, not Biblical.
I get tired of hearing “Pastors” “Christians” Yell (Yes Pastors Yell when they Preach.) at unmarried people. Telling them Love, Romance, Physical Attraction is not what a Biblical marriage is based on.
Mutual Physical attraction is essential in having a Good Marriage.
Whenever you hear your Pastor Preach check your Bible and make sure what he is saying is true. Just because everyone is saying something that does not make it true. Any Pastor who claims physical attraction is not to be considered when choosing who you will marry, that Pastor is WRONG.
They attack the men and women listening: “It is just your own Lust you are trying to satisfy. You do not care about your Christian duty to marry someone who is a Strong Christian.” “Marriage is not about being in this Fabled Love Story with this Mythical person you are attracted to…” I have heard this type of thing preached and printed.
The truth is there are many thousands, even millions of attractive Christian men and women who are devout in their Faith. A Christian can find someone to marry that is: 1) True Love 2) A person who they are physically attracted to 3) A Strong Christian
These Pastor’s want to call everything a Sin. They make Christian Romance / Love, just Lust a Sin.
They destroy countless lives by calling what God ordained (Real Love between a man and a woman.) common Lust.
When men and women feel natural Love and Affection toward each other. Many run away from it fearing it is just Lust and not Love. Because of the False Pastor’s they have listened to.
Telling people that they need to reject physical attraction. To not consider it when they are looking for a person to marry. This is a major cause of countless divorces. It causes people to feel guilty for having a natural God given physical attraction to someone of the opposite sex.
Marriage is a physical and a sexual bond not just a mental exercise of two people being Christians.
Let’s look at what the Bible Says:
Abraham and Sarah
The Bible talks about Sarah’s Beauty. Sarah was so Beautiful Abraham told her on two different occasions to tell the people of the land they were traveling through that she was his Sister. He was afraid he would be murdered and Sarah taken from him if everyone knew that they were married. The 1st time Genesis 12:10-20,
The Second time Genesis 20:1 And Abraham journeyed from thence toward the south country, and dwelled between Kadesh and Shur, and sojourned in Gerar.
2 And Abraham said of Sarah his wife, She is my sister: and Abimelech king of Gerar sent, and took Sarah.
3 But God came to Abimelech in a dream by night, and said to him, Behold, thou art but a dead man, for the woman which thou hast taken; for she is a man’s wife.
4 But Abimelech had not come near her: and he said, Lord, wilt thou slay also a righteous nation?
5 Said he not unto me, She is my sister? and she, even she herself said, He is my brother: in the integrity of my heart and innocency of my hands have I done this.
6 And God said unto him in a dream, Yea, I know that thou didst this in the integrity of thy heart; for I also withheld thee from sinning against me: therefore suffered I thee not to touch her.
7 Now therefore restore the man his wife; for he is a prophet, and he shall pray for thee, and thou shalt live: and if thou restore her not, know thou that thou shalt surely die, thou, and all that are thine.
Jacob Loved Rachel
Jacob and Rachel were both very attractive. They were mutually attracted to each other.
Genesis 29:15 And Laban said unto Jacob, Because thou art my
brother, shouldest thou therefore serve me for nought? tell me, what shall thy wages be?
16 And Laban had two daughters: the name of the elder was Leah, and the name of the younger was Rachel.
17 Leah was tender eyed; but Rachel was beautiful and well favoured.
18 And Jacob loved Rachel; and said, I will serve thee seven years for Rachel thy younger daughter.
19 And Laban said, It is better that I give her to thee, than that I should give her to another man: abide with me.
20 And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and they seemed unto him but a few days, for the love he had to her.
21 And Jacob said unto Laban, Give me my wife, for my days are fulfilled, that I may go in unto her.
Jacob did not Love Leah and he was not attracted to her.
Jacob was not wrong to Love Rachel and to not Love Leah. The marriage between Leah and Jacob was forced. It is an example of so many failed Christian marriages of today. People are pressured into marrying someone they are not attracted to and who they do not even Love.
Jacob and Rachel were in Love.
I hate the FALSE TERM: “Biblical Love.” People say this to claim that Biblical Love does not involve Physical Attraction. These people do not understand the Bible. Or they twist the scriptures to say Physical attraction is not a part of Love and Marriage.
There are many Bible verses about Marriage. Physical Attraction is not a Sin and is part of a Healthy Marriage.
The First Marriage
Genesis 2:18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
19 And out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.
20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
22 And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
Make sure the person you are focused on is actually a Christian.
We are Saved by Believing the Gospel plus nothing to Save us. Jesus Only is the way to Heaven. No Works of any kind.
1 Corinthians 15:1 Moreover, brethren, I declare unto you the gospel which I preached unto you, which also ye have received, and wherein ye stand;
2 By which also ye are saved, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain.
3 For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures;
4 And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures:
